Closure: a feeling that an emotional or traumatic experience has been resolved.
Relationships are hard to be in. They’re even harder to be out of. And everyone has that one person that they thought they would never get over.
I have one. You have one. Everyone has one. Even Jennifer Lawrence has one.
I never actually dated mine, so I only ever refer to him as the ‘almost’ guy. The one that got away. How do you move on from an ‘almost’ guy? Closure.
Let’s discuss the word almost. It must be the saddest word I’ve ever heard, quite possibly, the saddest word in the English language.
But getting closure and talking about closure are two entirely different things. Firstly, you’ve got to get back in touch with the person you need closure with (which is a task in itself!)
Secondly, you need to be strong, and not fall back in love with them. Even though some wounds never heal, and they’ll bleed again at the slightest word.
And then thirdly you have to actually get closure. But how? By talking about your feelings? I think I’ll pass.
So is it necessary?
If all getting closure is going to do is cause you pain and unnecessary anxiety, then sod it, you don’t need it.
But what happens when you can’t move on, because you don’t know what you did wrong to make the other person leave? And what if, worst comes to worst, and the conversation blows? Then you’re left still hung up on this person who, quite frankly, sucks.
What if you end up forgiving someone who isn’t even sorry?
Who knows? I’ll let you know when I figure it out.